what we've allowed the corporate-driven media to do to us is simply sad
all in the name of the almighty $
example: valentines day is now the #1 western holiday in china = 20% of the world's population = every 5th person is chinese ..
i recently read 2 articles on a christian web site, both to do with love
one basically said that the author was wrong all their life; love isn't codependency, it's allowing each to be their own self, with their own life, independent, while agreeing to share part of their life with each other in a relationship.. here http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/no-you-dont-complete-me?utm_source&utm_medium=Email&utm_content=1%20Thumbnail&utm_campaign=RELEVANT%20Newsletter
the other basically said that love isn't so much feeling and emotion - that won't last; it's a choice
here http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/lie-about-falling-love?utm_source&utm_medium=Email&utm_content=Life%204&utm_campaign=RELEVANT%20Newsletter
firstly, i don't wish people 'happy valentine's day'
people aren't my valentine
secondly, love isn't love; that is, there's love and there's love
love for my 'neighbour' is not the same as love for my lover
the two exist on vastly different levels, if you think about it a bit
lovers' love is so very much codependency
absolutely is
the lovers form a separate unit (think union) whereby they are each other's other
and love is not a choice
absolutely is not
it fundamentally flows form an irrepressible desire to be with/part of/share/experience together/crawl inside each other and get lost forever, and 'i don't care if the world drops off the edge of the universe' ..
that may sound childish, but when that sort of attitude is not there, it's my belief that love is defective .. something's wrong
from a bilical perspective, love is the union of two souls in a way that no other person gets to be united with either of them
this is evidenced by the fact that God gave that union sex, a shared experience solely and specifically designed to radically deepen and strengthen that relationship, blessing, and adding blessing upon blessing in the form of children
a simple read through Song of Songs (or Song of Solomon) adds much fuel to that fire
there we witness (for example) an unquenchable fire in the breast of a woman who ventures out in the wicked dark of night in search of her lover, and will not give up until she finds him
it's like she was divided in two when he wasn't around
absolutely
and there's much more of the same in there ..
God divided the first human into two, making male and female, distinct in characteristics, and then God brought the two back together and said 'cling' to each other, 'be one flesh'
how do you diss' that?
why do we have to justify our 'failure' at love by undermining what God intended, rationalizing with modern psychothink?
it's unbecoming of people that name the name of Christ
just because you (or i) don't have that love does not grant us permission to downgrade love to suit our situation
either it's love, or it ain't
of course there's commitment
of course there's determination to hang-in during bad times
of course you can't always expect the emotional content to be asyoulikeit ..
but that does not define love
we can't just redraw the circle to suit us
for the incredible portion of us that don't have it ..
we can pray for it
we can work at making the relationship we're in the best we can, providing all the fuel we can muster to help God answer our prayer
choosing to love in the hope that genuine love for my lover ignites ..
but love is love, friend
don't throw it out because most of us don't have it
peace to you
and love ..
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