fatherness and the mad rush to disengage malehood ..

i don't know why i chose that title ..
really

i guess it might be the constant barrage of femality and exalting womanhood ..
might i say, often at the expense of the male

sad that

how come we get to hurt in order to promote a good thing ?
why do we have to destroy in order to build up ?

so, yes, there are corrections and adjustments to be made
the male of the species has historically had the high-road while oftentimes the female has been in the background

but
ever notice how so much more has been made of mothers' day than fathers' day ?
ever notice the trend to diss the male in the tv ads, to make the man out to be a wuss, a ' duhh ' idiot ?
ever notice the regular bombing of the male gender to make the point of  ' woman '
?  ?

it's on my mind today to honour fathers
in the person of my father
a man that, in my mind, stands out as an example, at least to me, of what i should have been all along

i failed at that in many many ways
and i regret every failure
my children bear the brunt of that in their own life-forming
they have to move on in the face of my screwups to make lives of their own
to themselves parent
to undo me in their own experiences of fathering and mothering
and i wish them much success in that ..

...

so, my bad, and i'm sorry for it

and then there's my dad
kenneth gordon
a man among men in my eyes
a genuine person
   such that whenever you met him in whatever circumstance, you met the same person
unpretentious
soft of heart
kindly dispositioned to all
   especially to children
simple in lifestyle
constantly trying to understand the scriptures
   with barely any schooling
an example to me

i'm working on it

thanks to you, dad
happy fathers' day